The experiment: HYPNOSIS.
The subject: My Boyfriend.
My boyfriend does not share his feelings with me. This has proven to be the wedge being driven inbetween us. I’m the complete opposite (emotional to say the least) so naturally we are butting heads, all the time. I knew if we couldn’t learn to communicate more effiecently, it was a dead-end relationship. We have major communication issues. MAJOR. Hell, I don’t even know if he really likes ME or the fact that I pick up after him, wash his clothes, and take care of him when he is sick. I often assume it’s the later because he doesn’t tell me otherwise. I know it’s not normal and it has caused great anxiety in my life.
I was a psychology major in college and we studied hynosis in a few different classes. It seems too good to be true for my relationship issues. Well, I was thinking if you were to hypnotise someone, you would ultimately gain access to their deepest, darkest thoughts. This would allow me access to what he was thinking and maybe better understand what the hell I am doing in this relationship. Hypnosis seems reasonable because it’s quick.. I’m wasting time day in and day out being out right pissed off because he is a complete stranger to the man I once knew. Should I hypnotise him into revealing his true feelings? Or is that just going to complicate matters even more? I know what I may find out might hurt, but I’m already hurt enough. With my prior knowledge and with the use of the many free hypnosis websites my answers seem within reach.’
But there’s a catch:
He seems to think he can’t be hypnotised. My studies in psychology would say that perhaps he is right, but most people can be hypnotised.. they just have to be open-minded. Meaning they can’t be thinking that “This won’t work” or “I cannot be hypnotised”. If you don’t think hypnosis works, then quite simply it won’t. Why? In order for it to work you must be open to suggestion – this opens up the mind to be influenced and studied by the hypnotist or researcher.
Want to learn more?
The web is great place to start your research, they have plenty of sites dedicated to the topic.
Here are a couple to get you started:
- How to Use Hypnosis (answers.com)
- The Arons Depth Scale: One example of hypnosis depths (therapypons.wordpress.com)
- Hypnotism – 5 – Sensory Manipulation with Hypnosis (conservatoryofmagic.com)
Later that afternoon..
THIS MUST BE A DREAM! HAVE I SUCCEEDED IN SELF HYNOSIS?!
Unfortuatley, it’s not a dream. And I’m not in any form of trance.
I went ape-shit crazy.
Screaming at the top of my lungs.
Get out of my house!
I couldn’t take anymore. As with every other day we hadn’t said much of two words to each other. But for some reason when his “friend” came in demanding me to do something I flipped out and lashed out.
So much for my hypnosis experiment. My subject.. errrr boyfriend.. is gone.
And here I sit staring at this document knowing it will listen. It won’t ignore me, it will take each keystroke I make and create a group of words into a sentence into a paragraph until i hit “publish”. Alone, my brain a buzz with new knowledge on a topic I could not do anything with without a test subject — someone to hypnotize.
You see, it all happened so fast, but really it didn’t. I record everything. and when you don’t have someone to listen to your deepest darkest feelings, the paper that you write upon will have to do. It relieves anxiety and stress and that is why I immeditely pulled up my most recent post. A million thoughts are swirling through my head now. You must know the feeling.
Coincidentally I read a beautiful article yesterday about relationships and breaking up. I just had a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach that the end was near.
Only you can change how you are feeling. No one else can.
Remind yourself every day that life is good and that eventually the pain will pass. Life is happening right now, and there’s no reason to waste more days feeling sad about the past.
Change your perspective about life, loss, and pain; learn to view everything that happens to you as a positive thing.
You can’t control someone else’s decision, so focus on what you can control: your thoughts, your attitude, and your reaction.
We’ve all dealt with break-ups before. You are not alone on this. Don’t give up hope; give it time!
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall” ~Confucius.
from: TINY BUDDHA @ http://j.mp/JjZ6ai
Maybe I was wrong in wanting to hypnotise HIM and instead maybe I’m the one needing relief, relief I could quite possibly find with a deep trance, a pure hynotic state to gather my thoughts. I suffer from extreme anxiety – hynosis allieviates anxiety. But what ultimately is my goal? Hypnosis can reveal the framework in mysubconscious mind and it’s becoming clear that is where the solution to my self imposed pity can begin to shed some light.
Time to let go. And move on.
Not so fast!
Really? There’s more??
I’m not sure how much later but I wake up to the dude coming in my living room with his friends in tow. I’m curled up on the couch, as I feel asleep before I could finish my posting.
The saga continues.
Being with someone who doesn’ love you like you love them is hard, but I’m in a tight spot and leaving him just might hurt me more than heal me hypothetically speaking. I let my feelings get the best of me and am once again back to where I started. Technically “taken” but emotionally “alone”.
Life will go on, I can assure myself that. My next research topic: will hypnosis work with a boyfriend?
And before I conclude, I’d like to share a quote from Hunter S. Thompson. He’s the dude who wrote Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas. YES, it’s a book.. the movie came second.
“However, focusing on the past and future forces us to stay stuck in an endless loop of pain and confusion, and prolongs the healing process. Stay present in the moment and allow the emotional wounds to heal naturally.”
Want to see if you can hypnotise someone? Start learning techniques today, the knowledge base is endless on the internet. Here’s a site that offers a free self hypnosis session. I’m about to give it a try because it’s been one hell of a day..
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